Posted on October 31 2019
5 Things You Should Do For A Happy Marriage
It’s easy to say that you want to get married. It could be that you have found the one person in your life that makes your days better. You feel drawn towards them, attracted most certainly. You feel like you’ve become a whole after finding this person and you never want to let go of them ever again. Well, that’s beautiful. Love is most certainly a beautiful and noble thing.
Tying the knot is also fairly easy. You may think otherwise but if we’re strictly going to just regard marriage as the formal institution of a new family and not the fancy-shmancy wedding ceremony people are so fond of throwing, it actually isn’t that hard to do. You tell your girlfriend that you plan on making it official for the rest of your lives and when she says “Yes” you can just head on down to city hall and sign the papers.
If you’re not at that age yet where you can get married without your parents’ consent then you can just drag them along with you. As for the witnesses, you can take whoever’s available downstairs in city hall. There really is no need for a grand reception or anything like that. We only do that to show our appreciation to the people who’ve witnessed and supported our journey getting to that aisle. It’s not a prerequisite to marriage; it’s more of an optional event. If you have the money, that is.
The point I’m trying to make here is that anyone can get married. Really, almost anyone can these days - man to woman, man to man, or woman to woman. It’s really all possible. You can do a grand proposal, have that luxurious reception, or just head home soon after you’re done filing the paperwork. It’s really just up to you. More importantly, the biggest challenge comes after all the hullabaloo.
The challenge is whether you can stay married.
How Many Marriages End In Divorce?
You may have heard this from someone before but they say that half of marriages end in divorce. Well, that’s not true. I guess at one point that was a fact but in recent years, the odds are more favorable when it comes to keeping marriages. The rough estimate that we currently have is at 39%. This means that at least 4 out of ten marriages end in divorce. But why did it drop down so suddenly?
Well, it is said to be because of the generation of millennial's.
There was once a time when marriage was more of a milestone for adults that they have to get out of the way as soon as they can. It’s something you automatically delve into after you’ve settled into a decent job with decent pay. However, this generation doesn’t feel the needs to rush marriage. If anything, they know exactly what it entails – probably because they learned from experience or witnessed some problems with their parents’ marital unions. Also, the young adults of today heavily prioritize self-growth and individual career. Marriage isn’t viewed as a norm or standard of a healthy life anymore because young people are being taught that there is nothing wrong with staying single for the rest of their lives.
However, just because many do not view marriage as something necessary in their lives doesn’t mean that they completely detest the idea of living with another person. Cohabitation has become a norm and is now more preferred by young adults over official unions. For one, they believe that it offers everything a marriage can minus the grief and financial liability of divorce. If the relationship doesn’t work, the couple can simply go their separate ways. No need to file a tower of paperwork or get hang up on post-divorce blues. While it certainly is a more practical approach to relationships, I say there are still romantics left in the world like you and me maybe that still believe in the power and beauty of love.
All these recent statistics cannot tell you how you should approach your own love story. If you think that you’re really ready to face a future with your special person, then I say that you go for it! After all, at the end of the day, we only regret the things we didn’t do. Just make sure that your mind, body, and soul is ready for this newfound commitment.
Here are 5 things that you should do to make sure you live out a happy and never-ending marriage:
Show Your Partner Affection Everyday
Saying “I love you” every day goes a long way. Telling your partner to eat right, to never skip lunch, and to be careful on the way home also go a long way. It’s these little things we do that show how much we care for our beloved so don’t let a day go by that you don’t express your affection to your wife or husband.
Never Forget To Kiss Her Good Morning & Good Night
They say that the secret to an everlasting marriage is the kiss. You have to kiss your partner like it’s your first and last every single time. You don’t just give them a smack on the lip and head on out. Savor each kiss and never forget to give one the moment you wake up and before you go to bed.
Support Her In The Things She Loves
Women are not sidekicks, capisce? They are partners in life but they also have their own personal goals, dreams, and aspirations just like you. If you truly love someone, you love everything about her. Support your partner in what she adores to do. Allow her to spread her wings and watch her fly.
Share Home Responsibilities Equally
Even if you’re the main breadwinner of the family, it doesn’t excuse you from doing your part in keeping your home. Lend a hand with the chores. Most women work full-time and still manage to make a house a home. You have to be a life partner 24/7 – and that means during general cleaning days too.
Always Celebrate The Little Joys
Celebrate every small milestone or achievement. One of you got a small promotion at work? Celebrate it. Something good happened in your day? Still, celebrate it. I’m not saying you should throw a grand party or anything like that, a couple of mimosas will do.